“The heaviest of burdens crushes us, we sink beneath it, it pins us to the ground. But in love poetry of every age, the woman longs to be weighed down by the man’s body. The heaviest of burdens is therefore simultaneously an image of life’s most intense fulfillment. The heavier the burden, the closer our lives come to the earth, the more real and truthful they become. Conversely, the absolute absence of burden causes man to be lighter than air, to soar into heights, take leave of the earth and his earthly being, and become only half real, his movements as free as they are insignificant. What then shall we choose? Weight or lightness?”

by Milan Kundera, from “The Unbearable Lightness of Being”

Sometimes the things that we struggle with the most, the thoughts that weigh the most heavily on our shoulders, are in themselves our objects of greatest virtue.

No matter how tremendous they become, you have to ask yourself, what would you be left with without them? Is substance a burden? Life without any conflict or tribulations is easy. Yet the emptiness left behind becomes in itself a burden.

So the question becomes a matter of choice between the weight of substance, duty, and love, versus the sometimes overwhelming weight of nothing; of insignificance…

6edcee206ca590a1b7eeda6d88b37dd4In the midst of winter, I found there was, within me, an invincible summer.

And that makes me happy. For it says that no matter how hard the world pushes against me, within me, there’s something stronger – something better, pushing right back.

by Albert Camus from “The Stranger”

and now that you don't have to be perfect, you can be good. – John Steinbeck Perfection; a huge dilemma. Not for everyone, but for everyone who is a perfectionist. Sometimes it's an asset and other times it's a burden, a barrier, or even an excuse. The all or nothing of everyday life... that's what being a perfectionist impacts. Depending on the situation it can become an obstacle rather than an objective. You start to put things on hold, or give up on them completely, because in your mind; if you can't do it right (to the degree of perfection you define), then it's not worth doing at all… And yes, perfection like everything is relative. We define what it is to us, the extent and context. There in lies the problem and the cure. Since we define it, then in theory we can still be perfectionists and adjust our own perception of perfection so that it is no longer a hindrance. Or is it simply an excuse? with regard to the things that are the most important to us… We can't stand the thought of failure, so we create a world in our minds that absolves us of all responsibility... "and now that you don't have to be perfect, you can be good". only when we perceive this statement to be true… then good will be; good enough...